- Listen to your body. Use food as fuel. Make sure you eat enough but don't get sloppy again with the portion sizes. That's how you put the weight back on last time. Keep tracking with your iPhone-that's why you bought the damn thing.
- Schedule that mammogram and stay out of the sun. I know you think you look better with a tan, but you know you just burn anyway. Stick to the spray-on kind. You know what will happen if you don't and your kids don't need to lose their mom like you did at their age. Harsh, but true.
- Accept that you will never be able to be everything to everybody. Get over it.
- Hug your kids and husband EVERY SINGLE DAY!
- Love yourself. You have become one strong, HOT, rockin' woman. Celebrate that fact! This is very hard for you to do. It is going to take some work, but with friends like those righteous gals at the Sisterhood of the Shrinking Jeans, you can do it. If you don't, they'll come up to Michigan and give you the swift kick in the ass you need! Those gals are the ones who suggested I write you this letter. Pretty cool and insightful, huh?
Friday, January 29, 2010
Posted by Bari at 6:49 PM
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
I have been tracking my food consistently and avoiding late-night snacking. I'm also getting in lots and lots of water. Aside from the brownies debauchery this weekend (damn husband!), I'm doing really well in the calories dept. I'm also exercising every day, but maybe I'm not working out enough or with enough intensity. I've completed the EA Active 30 day challenge and just started on the EA More Workouts 6 week challenge, but some days it doesn't seem like enough of a calorie burn. On the other hand, some days my net calories are under 1000 (after exercise), so maybe I need to eat a little more. Who knows. I've also felt really run down the past few days, so I might be coming down with something. I know, excuses, excuses....
An update on my son's sports/fitness dilemma: he signed up for the middle school swim team and has had 2 practices so far this week. As of right now, he is really liking it. No meets yet, but he has some other friends on the team and seems to be having fun. Whatever works, I guess :)
I hope you all had a shrintastic week. Thanks for being there.
Posted by Bari at 12:23 PM
Friday, January 22, 2010
- I'm very good at my job. I'm a Speech-Language Pathologist and I love my job. I make it fun and I have a knack for establishing rapport with my kids and their parents and getting results (most of the time). Many of my students are actually sad when they "graduate" because they don't get to come hang out with me anymore. I usually miss them, too.
- I'm extremely organized. This Type-A, totally anal, personality helped me get infant twins on a schedule and to this day, 12 years later, manage to get them to all their crap. Not to mention, I have never been late with a documentation deadline (see #1). However, you would not know this about me by looking at my house or office. They are not so organized :)
- I have really nice eyes. I love their greenish color. I tried colored contacts in high school, which made them almost jade-like, but that was just too much.
- I'm pretty good at Sudoku. I even like to work on the "diabolical" level puzzles, and sometimes I even finish them.
- I think I'm a pretty good mom, at least most of the time. My children and I butt heads on a few issues (like what I feel they should eat for dinner and when to go to bed), but I think that means I've set some reasonable limits which will serve them well in the long-run. Maybe someday, my son will actually like a vegetable other than corn-on-the-cob. I've also helped them become independent when they need to be. I think I have the only middle-school students who get up on their own (on time) and get themselves ready for school without being asked.
- I make a mean Creme Brulee. I almost didn't put that on here, but there you go. Friends request it if we are having them over for dinner. Sad, but true. Probably why I need the Sisterhood :)
There are probably more things I could add, but at 9:45 at night, this is what I came up with, even though I've been mulling over this all week. I mentioned this little "project" to my husband and he told me to make sure I add this one: I'm very good at spending money. Probably not something that says "You Rock", but my awesome new blinds arrived today! He'll be installing them in the morning :)
Thanks for a great "re-think" project. Someone I follow on twitter said, "Remember to be awesome everyday" with this picture. If you can't read the caption, it says, "words cannot express the awesome." Pretty good advice. Be awesome everyday.
Posted by Bari at 9:29 PM
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Considering the weekend I had (you can read about it here in my true confessions post) I am very pleased with my loss.
I need a little advice (or maybe just validation since what's done is done). My son has been taking karate from a complete a-hole for 3 years and is currently a black belt/white stripe (one belt below black belt). Our "contract" (yah, according to this guy I signed a 3 year contract-I clearly must have been stoned) ends in February. Yesterday, I gave the guy my final check and told him my son would not be back. He just looked at me and said "ok". (We are clearly oil and water and I'm sure he thinks I am a total bi*ch for calling him on the crap he tries to pull. I honestly think he isn't used to women standing up to him.) He pulled my son into his office and told him that he was one of his best students and good luck. Pretty nice of the guy, actually. Now, my son has been fighting me over going to karate for the past several months. He's a very intelligent 12 year old who I think realizes what a joke this guy is and really didn't see the point in going anymore. I'm sad that this guy has taken a sport my son loved, and has completely turned him off to it. I told my son that if he wanted to continue to study martial arts at another school, I would gladly look for one. He said, "no." Maybe someday he will decide to try it again.
Now, here is where the advice part comes in. Do I try to get my son into something else? He has never been a team-sports kind of kid and feels very inferior to his twin sister, the total jock, in the athletic skills department. I did encourage him to try the swim team at school. It is a no-cut sport and I really just want him to get some exercise. He signed up today, but now I'm having second thoughts about swimming. I'm afraid it is going to be one more area where he is going to compare himself to his sister (she swam last season and was one of the competitive divers on the dive team as well). Help a sister out...feedback...opinions...anything!
Posted by Bari at 5:22 PM
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
After having 2 very successful weeks in the food-logging and exercise-doing category, I had the weekend from "do everything you can to sabatoge your weight loss efforts" land. I had to go out of town for my daughter's first gymnastics meet of the season. This meant eating on the road (including - gasp! - McDonald's) and very minimal exercise. I brought my laptop so I could continue to log my food at dailyplate, but it crashed and I couldn't get it running again. We also had the worst hotel stay we've ever had, complete with a flithy room, someone's kids running up and down the halls all night, a "fitness center" with no working equipment and cold showers in the morning. I'm not proud that I went off on the hotel staff, but I did get our room rate reimbursed. I also yelled at Jill (our Garmin) for taking us some backasswards way back to the highway after exiting to put gas in the car. Apparently she doesn't like to go back the way she came. Clearly, yelling at a machine was not one of my prouder moments.
Although we had a long, exhausting weekend and I'm scared to see what the scale is going to say tomorrow, I got to watch this...
and finally this....
Posted by Bari at 5:01 PM
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
I worked very hard this week at logging all my calories in at www.livestrong.com and I've been downright religious about completing my EA Sports workouts. I even upped the intensity to "high" this week because I felt the workouts were not really enough for me. In addition to the Wii, I've made it to the gym for some strength and cardio classes. I have never been an early morning workout person, but I've found if I get up a little early and do my Wii workout before school, I'm more likely to eat right during the day and I've even gone to the gym to work out after work on a few occasions. I've also been trying to "eat" most of the calories I've been burning because I have had times in the past where my body would freak out over the lack of calories and NOTHING would come off. Here's hoping my current plan continues to work for me in the weeks to come.
I have to say, though, I'm very nervous about how well I'm going to do this weekend with the plans we have. Friday night Mr. Shrinking Chick and I are going out (to a sports bar of all places) for my school's holiday party. Lots of good, healthy food there - NOT. Then, we hit the road Saturday morning to head to Southern Illinois for my daughter's first gymnastics meet of the season. We'll be eating on the road, going out to dinner, and then spending all day Sunday at the convention center. There will be no good choices there. At least the hotel has a basic fitness center, so I'll be able to use the treadmill or something, and I hope to get my Saturday EA workout in before we leave. I'm going to miss my 1st one on Sunday :( but I'll make it up on my "rest" day on Monday.
Wish me luck (and that all the athletes have a fun, injury-free meet) and I hope to be able to report a loss next week!
Posted by Bari at 8:33 PM
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
I'm proud to say I really don't have many transgressions to confess this week because I've worked very hard to get on track this week. So, I'm going to post a few successes (forgive me, but I'm proud of myself this week).
- Got my hair done today and after not seeing my stylist for 10 weeks, the first words out of her mouth were, "Have you lost weight?" I didn't realize the 6 or 7 lbs I've lost since I saw her last were showing. Cool.
- I've been logging EVERYTHING I eat and all my exercise at Daily Plate. I've actually had a number of days where my net calories were really low (like under 800) but I haven't really been hungry. I know not eating enough is a pattern that I've gotten into in the past so I need to watch that.
- I have not missed a workout this week and have upped the intensity on my EA Active workouts to "high".
- Confession time: since my calories were really low after 2 workouts yesterday (and I was feeling a bit shaky), I ate a bologna and cheese sandwich at 10:00 last night and had some trail mix - yikes. Tight rings this morning-hello salt!
- I went over my calories on Sunday night thanks to one of my girlfriends bringing over mojitos.
- I've been workout out a lot, but have been severely neglecting my abs. Haven't done anything for them.
Now for some pre-emptive confessions:
- I'm very concerned about this upcoming weekend.
- My daughter has a gymnastics meet 6 hours from home. We are going to be on the road driving (hello-fast food) and then eating at the Peoria Convention Center during the meet (can you say, nachos and pizza?).
- I'm going to miss my EA workouts this weekend, but the hotel has a very small fitness center, so I'm hoping to at least do some walking on the treadmill.
- The hotel has wi-fi so I'm planning to bring my laptop and hopefully still log my choices. This should help keep me accountable.
- I'm hoping the high potential for bad eating doesn't derail me this weekend.
Posted by Bari at 8:22 PM
Friday, January 8, 2010
Posted by Bari at 8:39 PM