Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Spring Fling Weigh-In #7: Not A Weight Loss Post This Week

I'm not writing a weight-loss post this week. I'm writing a Thank You letter.

Dear Bob,

Thank you for the 15 wonderful years you gave my father and the rest of my family.

Thank you for your loving smile and your big hugs.

Thank you for helping Dad babysit the twins when they were only a few weeks old...and for changing all those diapers :)

Thank you for making the drive to watch their competitions and concerts. They always loved it when you would come cheer them on. It was so great to hear from your relatives how much you used to brag about them, like they were truly your own grandkids.

Thank you for sharing your love of Lake Michigan and boating with my dad. Some of my fondest memories are of spending time out on the boat with you two.

Thank you for sharing your love of music. I know you and Dad usually disagreed on what station the XM should be tuned to, but I also know he shared your love of old time gospel and would tolerate your 70's and 80's rock. I loved the music you would download for me.

Thank you for always giving me a kiss and telling me to "Be Careful" whenever we would leave to go home. My response was always, "No, it's drive fast and take chances" which always got a laugh out of you.

As the sun sets on your life on earth, know that we cherished every moment with you. Thank you for giving my kids the joy of an extra Grandpa, and for being the best step-dad a girl could ask for. We will definitely miss our Bobby, but we know that you are now in the comforting arms of our Heavenly Father, free from pain and the cancer that took you so quickly from us. We will see you again some day.

Love always,

For those of you who are not connected with me on Facebook, here is the post my Dad wrote just hours after Bob passed peacefully away on April 12, 2010:

Goodbye my friend, my companion, my lifetime partner. You will be missed dearly by me and your daughter Jennifer as well as the rest of our families. We had some great times together. But may you now rest in peace, free of the pain and suffering from the cancer that took your life in such a short amount of time. I told you 15 years ago that I would never leave you and would always take care of you and never let you go. I kept all those promises right up to the very end, but now I have to break that last promise- I am letting you go to be with your Heavenly Father and to join your mother and father who preceded you in death. Rest assured that the ring you wore on your necklace will be right next to mine now, side by side. So you see, I'm not really letting you go. You will always be with me. Goodbye my sweetie pie.

Thank you to all my friends for the support and love you have given me during Bob's brief illness. Your thoughts and prayers were felt by all of us. I love you all. Thank you.


  1. A lovely, lovely letter. Again, my condolences to you and your family.

  2. Bari,
    That is so beautiful. SO beautiful. I'm so sorry that your family has lost such an amazing man. I'm sorry that your dad has lost his best friend and partner. I'm sorry that you lost your step-dad and your children lost their grandpa. I'm sorry that cancer took him away from you.

    When I run in San Diego, I will write Bob's name on my race tank, and think of you and your family.

    Lots of love to you, my sweet friend.

  3. I am also very sorry. Thank you for sharing such beautiful letters.

  4. Bari, I sit here with tears streaming down my face. cancer sucks. Much love to you and your family.

  5. Oh, Bari, this is beautiful.

  6. Bari, I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Thank you for sharing his life with us. Love you so much.

  7. So sorry for your loss... What a beautiful post and tribute to a very special person... Prayers are with you.

  8. you have me in tears. *hugs* i'm so sorry for you loss. *hugs*

  9. what a beautiful post Bari! Bob was just as lucky as you all were to have such loving family with him till he passed on.

    Hugs friend...thinking of you and your entire family. Bob sounds like an amazing person!


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